MoonShadow and SunKitten's journal

*hugs* Good question. It seems it may be very context dependent: sometimes what I need is someone to desist from a specific behaviour, and then, assuming it's easy and reasonable for them to do so, I can directly ask (or ask later if I'm not sure I can raise it in a reasonable manner). Other times I know objectively that whatever annoyed me is probably not actually the real issue, I just need to know the other person didn't mean it, in which case I might say something like that, just jump straight to "can I have a hug" or whatever emotionally-bonding thing is appropriate for that person.